When a person making big mistakes, we strt to blame on their actions. And some of us are not forgive for others mistakes as it is really unaccepted actions. Wound take time to heal as well as the scars.
At least listen to what they want to speak out. My grandma saying that human are blessed by given 2 ears, 2 eyes and 1 mouth. There is the function. first Listen, See and State your decision. Dont be regret by draw the conclusion emotionally. It is not worth it!
Raise the ego and overthinking, break the relationship and missing each other is not the solution. And you ask the God why this is happening to you. Yup, being a forgiveness person is not easy but trust me, you will feel calm and overflowing. There is no grudge to hold and to think about.
An easy going and a quick thinker person usually will hide the problems under the carpet as they didn't want feel any burden of feeling guilty. They didin't want to forgive them but they feel guilty to hold grudge in a long time.
And this person will avoid to meet the person that hurt them. They are not ready to forgive the prson yet. And after they already ready and start to forgive them, they will try to make the new bonding with the person. A new chapter for the new leaf. Usually this type of person have no problems to forget what others did to them. For them, after they start to rebonded wot ther person, he will forget about the past.
In another cases, some might forgive people that have done something bad to them but it is hardly to forget everything. He will be careful in every steps he taken, and aware in his life. Simplw sentences. The past make him afraid of his own shadow. And i think this is really terrible.
A person will forgive you but he didnt forget what you had done. He didn't trust you and guess what? The bonding that tied before this is not strpnger as the rwcent. Everything seems look awkwardd.
Here is another tips that maybe help you to forget and forgive.
1. Think of his good deeds.
There is a good side of someone that makw you impress with them. Their actions make your heart melt. Sometimes homo sapiens cant avpid doing a silly mistakes that harm to their love ones. Intentionally. Think about their sacrife for helping you is really good steps to avoid from breaking the bond.
2. Dont overthinking.
"Overthinking kill your happiness."
and guess what? Overthinking is also ruin your relationship. Wash your thought from negative voices. Remember every bad thoughts is from satan. So, STOP!
3. Dont share your problems
Do not tell your problems to anyone or in any social media unless the person is the trustful person. We have no idea the other person pr the third party actually are clapping their hands if we hv a critical relationship with others. This type pf person will hasut ypu to continue your emotionally action and ruin everything!
How Can You Forgive If You Cant Forget.
If Allah can forgive His people, why cant't His people forgive each other.